Dashed Dreams

Jakey Jake Jake.  I had high hopes for you.  Yes, I’ve never watched any season of the Bachelor so faithfully, well never have I watched any season of the Bachelor at all, but that’s beside the point.

During the first episode, part of me died a little bit because how could I ever stand to say that I agreed with any principles that the series put out in the open?  Yet, I continued to watch, week after week.  Each week, two hours of my life was sucked away on Monday nights as I sat in expectation with chocolate at hand, wondering which girl was the next to have her oh-so-fragile heart broken.  Week after week, the tears flowed longer, the make out sessions also became longer, and week after week we watched as Jake reminded us that “my future wife is one of these remaining women”.  Blah blah blah.

Yet, there was something that seemed very genuine about Jake, and perhaps that is what kept me watching every single Monday night.  I had some high hopes, yet there was something lurking about Jake.  Yes, he was the self-proclaimed “nice guy”, but let’s face it, when you’re on The Bachelor, you’re a player.  Hands down, you’re a player, or a “tool” as some would say :).  Yes, he was honest too, about falling for so many of the women, but really, seriously?  Are you kidding me?  I just couldn’t imagine developing feelings for so many people at once, but not only that, but also knowing that one of the girls you lead on and make out with all week, you’ll have to send home.  Where is your conscience Jakey-tool?

What really bothers me, and maybe it’s just seeing of the truth that makes me so upset by it, is that Jake represents so many guys I’ve known in my life, and the women in the show represent so many women of this world.  As women, we see a guy we want, and we think we have to do these things to get him to stay in our lives.  We become what he wants, sometimes we become a totally different person around him just so he will want to keep us, or, even worse, compromise physically to keep him interested.  THIS IS NOT OKAY!!!  And that’s what really bothers me about the show mostly.  It is sadly an accurate representation of real life today.

I’m disappointed in Jake.  Yes, I’ll get over it, but guys, if there is a woman in your life who is a jewel and a treasure, and you can’t just seem to see it, then just like Jake, you don’t deserve her.  Yes, toward the end of the show, I was greatly annoyed at all of the women.  Girls are just annoying sometimes, let’s face it.  But guys if there is a girl who brings great joy to your life, is positive, cares about you more than she cares about herself (in a genuine way, of course), and of course as Christians, if she points you to Christ… DON’T LET HER GO!  Hate to make this rant all spiritual, but in Proverbs 31, it says she often IS hard to find,…”a wife of noble character, who can find?  She is worth far more than rubies”.  Jake, the “heat”, will fade.  It’s true.  The “Princess” act, will get real old, real, real fast (especially if you are practicing for “Dancing with the Stars” all day, and come home to an annoying lady who just wants all your attention and wants you to give, give, give to her).

Pursue what will be of greater value in the long run, not just what seems more pleasurable or fun now.

Seriously, be wise.  Our actions now will impact our futures, in this life, and the next.

Okay that’s it.  Until next season…

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